Due to numerous mainstream television shows and pornography, pegging has made its way into higher amounts of cultural awareness. That said, many people still have questions about this activity.
Multiple definitions of the word have been used. One of the first being “Pegging is a sexual fun that involves a cisgender woman putting on a strap on and anally penetrating her cis male partner. Since then, the term has been modified to be more inclusive to more genders and more people. For a growing percentage of people, pegging is defined differently. “Sexual fun that involves a person wearing a strap on and anally penetrating another person.” With this change, the gender or sex of the people pegging is not the focus. Rather the involvement of anal sex and a strap-on took center stage.
Why People Do Pegging?
People do pegging for a number of reasons. It can be a fantastic way to explore sexual fun. People have a nerve dense prostate gland that can be stimulated through anal penetration. Pegging is one way to explore the pleasures that can come from this part of the body.
Prostate orgasms can also happen through this is stimulation, which is often said to be more full-bodied than other orgasms by a good percentage of the people who have had them. Even without this prostate stimulation, anal penetration can still feel wonderful. It needs to be done properly, which is why safety and educational blogs like this one are essential. Orgasms that come from prostate massage are called p-spot orgasms. The anal canal, as well as the entrance, has tons of sensitive nerves.
The Receiver Has Fun Too
For many, the receiver who is wearing the strap on can also get pleasure. The base of the dildo can press on the pubic mound or clit in pleasurable ways. Some people do have other less pleasurable feelings as a receiver, however. This is why there are unique products like the Silli Saddle that can assist. It is also the reason that a high-quality strap on is essential to comfortable pegging fun.
The pleasure the receiver has can be described as similar to dry humping. Some people can orgasm through dry thumping, though others cannot. The other mechanic of this that can be fantastic is the flipping of the script, so to speak. In many heterosexual pairings, one partner typically does the penetration while the other one gets penetrated. By utilizing pegging, these couples or groups of people can switch up the rules. Tons of people find this to be emotionally fantastic and psychologically appealing.
Pegging Can Be In Traditional Relationships And In BDSM
This can be done both in combination and more. FemDom, or female domination, is also a fetish that many people do enjoy exploring. A dominant person may take their submissive as a sort of power exchange, which is another example. The person receiving anal penetration does not need to be submissive, however. It is possible to be dominant while taking it up the ass, and the energy of the scene or experience can play a large role in this. There are multiple positions pegging can be done in. This is something that is done outside of BDSM relationships, with many couples deciding that they want to spice up their sex lives to add more pleasure.
Bringing Up Pegging To Your Partner
Pegging is considered by some to be more taboo than the more traditional types of penetration. What is pegging? The question is pretty straightforward, though chatting with your partner about your desire to explore can be a little bit more difficult. Rather than showing up at your partner’s place with a strap on, bringing it up ahead of time is a good idea.
When you are in a neutral space and not engaged in sexual activity, it is often considered the best time to bring up your curiosity. The first step is introducing the idea, the second step is explaining why you are intrigued, and the third step is asking a question. This begins a conversation. Whether you are bringing it up to your partner, or your partner brings it up to you, try to be nonjudgmental. They are often nervous to bring it up, so a calm and understanding demeaner is best.
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Notes From Parker Rose
Opening Gateways is an Ann Arbor BDSM group that has also hosted kink workshops in other areas. If you are looking for consulting and advice on joining the lifestyle solo or with a partner, use these resources and send a notes. In addition to hosting kink events in Michigan, there are plenty of Detroit kink classes, kink classes in Ann Arbor, and bondage club Ann Arbor events. Our instructors have traveled to teach as well, and there are other places to learn about pegging, do rope bondage in Ann Arbor, and meet members of the community. Check out our more recently released partner website Ann Arbor Sex Toys as well to learn more about Ann Arbor sex toy stores and local sex positive businesses. Make sure to read our series on BDSM Red Flags too, safety is key.
