written by Parker Rose
Here, OpeningGateways explores how to talk about foot fetishes with your partner, if they approach you! This is part two. Part three will be if you want to approach your partner. There are four other parts to this series coming. The first part is Why Do People Have Foot Fetishes? Let us know what you think and if there is anything you think could be added. Our Twitter account is @OpeningGateways
If Your Partner Approaches You About Foot Fetishes – Let’s Begin!
Whether you are the one bringing up the conversation or they are, having an overview of how to approach the topic can be a fantastic idea. If your partner brings up foot fetishes to you, be open to listening. Listening is essential, and you will likely find that you have a few questions. These are often about foot fetishes and how they relate to your partner.
Not everyone will have a positive reaction when a loved or partner one tells them they have a foot fetish. This can cause a little bit of worry for people who are wanting to reveal this part of their sexuality. A partner being open and honest with you, and a polite and tactful way, is a big positive. Some people may even point their partner to a blog like this one after bringing it up. This way, their partner can get a little bit of reading done before talking more about it.
A Brief Bit About Why People Like Foot Fetishes
People who are into feet in a sexual manner they simply want to kiss your feet during sex, or they may enjoy a particular style of shoe that you wear. In some cases, they love to massage feet, and there are many other activities associated with foot fetishism. Some questions you can ask if they bring up their foot fetish with you can include:
What activities they like the most
Whether they enjoy any particular types of reciprocation
What are some of the things they would like to explore first
What is the goal of the foot play for them
For some people foot play is about foreplay, and other people have it play a more central role in their sexual pleasure.
Some Tips For Foot Fetish Conversations
In my experience, it is best to allow your partner time to take in the conversation that happen before giving a yes or no response in terms of exploration. Taking some time to think about the conversation can also give people time to do more research. There are additional blogs about foot fetishes coming up on Opening Gateways, so you can check the library here. There are also plenty of other great resources out there for people who are curious.
You may decide that activities pertaining to feet are not something you want to do, or you may decide to try things out. If you do try things out, starting slow is common. You can build up to different activities as time goes by, so think about your initial comfort level and take things one step at a time. Starting out with letting them massage your feet is common, and as you continue your exploration remember that honesty and tact are an essential part of any sexual journey.
Other Notes From Parker:
There are also classes and groups for BDSM, foot fetish and more. If you want to know more about how to talk about foot fetishes with your partner, reading the other foot fetish blogs, like For The Love Of Socks, here is a great start. Also, if you are in Michigan, there are many foot fetishists in the Ann Arbor kink community. There are also Ann Arbor foot fetish classes, so keep checking out the Opening Gateways schedule and the Michigan BDSM events page. Plus, there are many BDSM classes in Michigan, and special Michigan foot fetish events too. Also, many other communities often also have great options, this is one of many prominent kinks. Thanks again for stopping by, and happy kinking!
