The last points that need to be mentioned when answering the question “What are kink red flags?” are here. Below, you can find links to each part of this five part series about red flags. We welcome new people to the Ann Arbor kink groups and are excited to see you. The tools on this site will help you have a safe and respectful time at Ann Arbor kink events and kink events in other communities.
Other Red Flag Blogs: Part 1 – Part 2 – Part 3 – Part 4
Here are a few final points.
What Are Kink Red Flags? More Info
- It is more than advisable to have safewords and ABIDE by these safewords. Not everyone uses them, and that’s their individual choice, but especially with new folk, it is safer to have a word to call things off than not.
- Playing while intoxicated is inadvisable and ILLEGAL, technically. Know who you’re playing with, and know your limits.
- Speaking of limits, RESPECT your own and hold fast to them. In turn, also respect those of who you’re playing with.
- Play should not take place unless everyone involved is in the right state of mind. For Subs, I would watch out for agreeing to participating when feeling less than interested. For Dom(me)s, I would watch out for playing when in an upset/unusually aggressive state.
- Pay attention to the relationships your new (or current) interest keeps, within the kink community and without. Do they have good standing within the community? Do they have decent, reliable friendships?
An One More Important Note
That was a lot, I know. But there’s one more tip I have for you:
You need to exercise personal acumen. This is a good tip to being successful in life in general, but specifically in the kink community, it is imperative. Exercising personal acumen means you are taking inventory of yourself and putting your best self forward. The more self-awareness you have, the more likely you will be able to stick to your boundaries and conduct healthy relationships with others. Are you giving off red flags yourself? What can you do to be a better community member and improve your relationships?
In summary: awareness and authentic communication are what allow us to have these incredible experiences within and without the kink community. Being aware of your own red flags, and actively screening for others’ is the responsible thing to do. I wish you the best of luck in your future kinky endeavors!
